Learning to disappear. Pedagogies of self-negation in mothers experiencing gender-based violence

Abstract

This contribution aims to highlight the difficulty in recognizing the violence reported by women-mothers who are victims of violence participating in the XXXX. This difficulty is attributed here to the process of constant sexist misrecognition of the right of female subjects to “be for themselves”: objectified, women tend to be conceived, and therefore to conceive themselves, as “objects for the other” rather than as “subjects for themselves.” As they grow up, they therefore incorporate a view of themselves that is subordinate to the needs of the other-than-themselves. In this way, the perception of the embodied self of female subjects tends to fade, and with it fades the perception of the discomfort and pain of violent dynamics. The emerging educational needs of acquiring self-awareness and redefining the meaning of love implicitly learned are identified, in a process that accompanies emancipation from the existential subordination culturally imposed on women.